This is Day 21 in the series “31 Days: What You Should Know Before An Affair“ Day 21 In the weeks after my confession, all my relationships changed. At some level, I expected it to happen, but hadn’t anticipated the emotional loss it would add to my crisis. I’d never lacked for friends, and as a pastor’s wife, I was […]

This is Day 20 in the series “31 Days: What You Should Know Before An Affair“ Day 20 Before an affair, you need to know there will be guilt and there will be shame. Abundant guilt. And suffocating shame. For me, guilt was most abundant when I was living a double life. I would escape […]

This is Day 19 in the series “31 Days: What You Should Know Before An Affair“ Day 19 I sat in my living room that Sunday afternoon and asked my husband to sit down so we could talk. Our three-year-old son had just left to spend a week at Grandma’s house and we were now […]

This is Day 17 in the series “31 Days: What You Should Know Before An Affair“ Day 17 As the affair went on in secrecy, my heart grew more hardened with each passing day. The truth is, as embarrassing as it is to admit, I wanted what I wanted. What started as a single thought […]

This is Day 16 in the series “31 Days: What You Should Know Before An Affair“ Day 16 I can still see the deli where we met that day. Running late, I raced down the stairs and headed for the sidewalk. The time for the conversation had come. The turmoil was taking its toll on […]

This is Day 14 in the series “31 Days: What You Should Know Before An Affair“ Day 14 When the affair turned physical I became consumed.  I spent a full year investing in the emotional relationship—feeding my thoughts, engaging the attraction, coddling the conversation, and sending signals of interest—all of which were returned. It was […]

This is Day 12 in the series “31 Days: What You Should Know Before An Affair“ Day 12 She met me at the front of the huge sanctuary after the closing worship song. We talked in a friendly exchange as I would with anyone who needed to talk to someone after a service, and waited […]