How to Really Become Big {The #BackwardsPrinciple}

How to Really Become Big

Her tiny fingers wrap around mine, as I try to wipe all the vernix away. She cries as she lies on her mama’s chest, and I’m marked by her dependence before me.

I see it everyday, and I’m in awe of how we’re born–the humble way a human being emerges into this world, looking down.

We’re born looking down.

And then it all changes.

From our very first breath, we strive to be big. We lift up our eyes, and we climb. We long to be known, seek to be seen, grope to be noticed, crave to belong, and beg for someone to tell us we matter after all.

What great lengths we go, in order to become big.

But what if all our striving is really a battle cry for the significance, meaning, and purpose we crave? What if comparison is a disease of inadequacy, and we are malnourished in spirit because of our craving to be seen.

This quest to be seen as great, is the fuel that compels comparison, and the fire that ignites our doubts. [Tweet that]

But what if someone, the One someone, has already spoken on this matter, and we’ve got it all backwards?

What if the One who emerged Himself into this world by looking down, looks up at us, and begs us to follow His lead into smallness?

What if really becoming big, is a #backwardsprinciple : living in the small, and becoming even smaller, until we are smallest of all. [Tweet that]

To decrease, so He may increase.

He tells us in our humility, He will lift us up.

He says that the last become first, and the greatest are the least, with the biggest actually becoming the one who is the servant of all.

Jesus humbled Himself to death, even death on a cross. And He begs us to follow–to bow low, and die to ourselves, because this is the only way to really become big.

It’s the #BackwardsPrinciple : In your smallness He is great in you. [Tweet that]

Because when we’re searching lower, that’s when we’re finding Him. Jesus, who went before us in the lowliest of ways, begs us to follow.

It’s in our smallness we’re finding Him who says we are His.

We are filled, and we become big, and we are enough, because of who He is in us.

Choosing to be small,

Looking down,

Emerging with dependent hearts, 

This, will be the beginning of the kind of life our souls crave.

In our lowliness of spirit, as we fling our dependent selves onto Him, God smears our vernix away. And we wrap our tiny fingers around the hand of God there–Him using our smallness in the best of ways.

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What does smallness look like to you?

 

5-minute-friday-1I’m joining Lisa-Jo, over at her site today, to  just write. (Much more than five minutes today). The challenge is to write with the prompt she gives. And today, her prompt:

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*Photo Credit: Raul Luna, Flickr Creative Commons

 


  • Kasey

    So, so beautiful! This quest to be seen as great is the fuel that compels comparison, and the fire that ignites our doubts. –loved this. Great truth. Blessings, Kasey

  • Amber Cadenas

    Oh Jacque, I feel like you looked into my heart as I was reading your words. I needed this reminder today, because sometimes as a writer it can feel like a popularity contest and I can start to feel so very small, and just as you wrote, this can be “the fuel that compels comparison and the fire that ignites our doubts.” And it’s not about our greatness or likability, is it? I know this, and yet I find I must be reminded of it often. Thank you for your words of truth.

  • http://www.littlewritermomma.com/ Lisa Littlewood

    Well said…and a beautiful reminder. Blessings to you, Lisa

  • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

    I can so relate, having chased wanting to be seen for years. But that’s when I’ve allowed comparison to set in and then my purpose was derailed. I will look up to God and follow Him into smallness. Blessings!

  • Angela Parlin

    Visiting from FMF, and thank you for this! Such a great post I needed to read!!! Loved these lines:
    “We’re born looking down.
    And then it all changes.
    From our very first breath, we strive to be big. We lift up our eyes, and we climb. We long to be known, seek to be seen, grope to be noticed, crave to belong, and for beg for someone to tell us we matter after all.”
    ~Angela

  • Tris Bendickson Kellogg

    We need “to decrease, so He may increase”. Love your perspective on being small. Thank you for sharing and for leading me to ponder this important viewpoint. Blessings to you!

  • http://www.jacquewatkins.com/ Jacque Watkins

    Joining you in our need to decrease, so He can increase…thank you so much for stopping by Tris!

  • http://www.jacquewatkins.com/ Jacque Watkins

    So thankful for your encouraging words Angela, and for stopping by from FMF :)

  • http://www.jacquewatkins.com/ Jacque Watkins

    Joining you Barbie, in this journey into smallness…blessings to you CA friend..xo

  • http://www.jacquewatkins.com/ Jacque Watkins

    Thank you Lisa!

  • http://www.jacquewatkins.com/ Jacque Watkins

    Amber, you are right…it’s not about our greatness of likability, but His greatness IN us drawing others to Him. Reminding my own heart right along with yours…

  • http://www.jacquewatkins.com/ Jacque Watkins

    So very thankful you stopped by Kasey. Blessings to you too!

  • http://kriscamealy.com/ Kris Camealy

    Love this, Jacque, and YOUR HEART. I miss you, friend. We need to Vox soon! XXOO Love you

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