Our school year is winding down and I can’t tell you how much I’ve learned about myself and my kids, by being their teacher! And while I’m not a teacher by trade, as a nurse I do a lot of patient education and am very used to helping others learn.
Teaching my own children has been so very satisfying, and I count it a privilege to be present with them as they learn. I watch their faces light up when they succeed, and I’m also with them as they fail. And oh how important it is to learn to fail well, with grace, and together we are learning everyday.
And among the things I’m learning as my kids’ teacher, is how important it is to teach in the context of relationship—for them to know that the foundation of our relationship is strong enough to weather correction and instruction, because they’re convinced I care.
I’m realizing they learn best when they are reassured and have confidence in our relationship–when I hug them like crazy and annoy them with kisses … after all, what teacher does that? I’m also learning to get down at eye level with them, and teach with lots of praise and encouragement.
And we have all benefitted from the intentionality.
And this week, as I memorized the first two verses of Matthew 5, I was struck by the intentionality of Jesus.
He built purposeful relationships with his disciples, and had a great desire to teach them. And yet He knew, if His disciples’ hearts were going to be receptive to His teaching, He had to retreat with them–focus on teaching them with intention.
So when He saw the crowds, He went up on the mountain. His disciples noticed, and they followed Him– eager to be near Him and learn from Him.
And what really got me was the fact that Jesus sat down. He didn’t stand and talk down to them. He didn’t pace or lecture them. He directed His gaze at them–getting eye to eye with them. And that’s when He began to teach.
His body language and posture relayed to themHis humility, and the intimate way He cared.
And I’m moved by His approach.
How many times do I open my mouth to share, and not consider the other person?
How many times do I want to impart my “profound” knowledge to someone because I can … because way deep down, I think I’m so amazing?
And while I’m doing many things right, there are so many ways for me to improve. I’m guilty of talking down to my kids, and just plain talking too much to others. Forgetting to invest, consumed with self, and forgetting that the quality of the relationship supports their level of receptivity to me.
I need to remember that to really teach, it is my humble care that allows them to even hear me at all.
Who knew, two seemingly insignificant and introductory verses could bring such conviction and direction?
So whether I’m teaching my kids, or someone else, may I follow the example of Jesus.
May I be intentional.
May I work on building relationship.
May I have humility, and kill the pride that rages in me.
And when that time is right, may I teach face to face–eye to eye, always careful to consider their needs instead of my own, and relay how much I care.
How has your learning been enhanced when someone really cares?
What is your biggest obstacle in really teaching or sharing with others?
This week on to Matthew 5:3-5 (ESV)…
It’s never too late to join in … join together in memorizing the mount.
You can’t fail, if you don’t quit, and it would be such an honor to memorize with you!
#1356 My mother-in-law and her stellar teaching help
#1357 Busy work days, that just fly right by
#1358 Co-op field trip, Orange County Heritage Museum
#1359 Loving parents visiting our home
#1360 My dad buying donuts, and Starbucks, and breakfast treats
#1361 Dinner date out with my parents, my son, and his friend
#1362 White easter dresses with flowers and lace
#1363 Cool evening walks in the open streets
#1364 More Easter clothes found, and the gift that allowed us to buy them
#1365 More foxgloves and sweet alyssum, lobelia, and vines
#1366 A pool finally plastered, and the kind men who put it on
#1367 A new group to join, cheering each other on so we’re not alone
#1368 Plane tickets bought to Allume and She Speaks…is it July or October yet???
#1369 A late night Twitter message from a friend, cheering me on as we Mount the Sermon on the Mount together
#1370 My sweet Savior’s sacrifice for me … His pain, and then His conquering! Wow, I am just thankful beyond any words at all…